How to Take Control of Your Life Today
When you search “How to take control of your life”, you get millions of hits. It’s so easy to feel out of control, after all. It’s so much easier just to say ‘I’m going to take control of my life’ when you make New Year’s resolutions, you leave school or varsity or need to make a career change, than to take the steps required to take control.
The best place to start the journey to take control of your life is to decide what exactly it is about your life that you want or need to change. Taking control can be about something that seems as basic as following your passion in some way or another. Marie Curie (who did pioneering research on radioactivity and won two Nobel prizes) is quoted as saying “We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained”.
Finding out what you are gifted for is the first step on your road. Mark Twain once said: “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why”. Finding out the “why”, however, is not age-bound. Perhaps you find it the day you start school. Perhaps it only becomes clear when you turn fifty. But, wherever you are in your life when you do take the step to take control of your life, you will realise that it is a more difficult step than people think, as it truly means you are setting off on your own road. After all, “you do not exist to please someone else, you exist for your own sake” (Hank Green).
When you do take control of your life, it’s not necessary to change your life 180 degrees in one day. Small steps and careful planning is better than no steps at all. And, because everyone is an individual, each person’s road is also different from everyone else’s. What is suited to you, therefore, may be completely unsuitable for someone else. Your life isn’t their life and vice versa. This means that you shouldn’t take control of someone else’s life or let them be completely in control of your life.
Taking control of your life, in the end, isn’t just having all your paperwork in order (although it is important that you do). It is about taking on the responsibility to live up to the best possible you that you can be. To take control of your life means that you have to take stock of where you find yourself right now – no matter how painful or how difficult it is. Only then can you move forward and truly take control of your life. And you can take that first step today.